I’ll admit it, I’ve been rather inconsistent with this blog. There are times when I post lots, and times when I don’t post for over a month. The fact is, sometimes I’m busy focusing on the dramas and dilemmas of life, sometimes I am away and don’t have my laptop or internet, and sometimes I simply can’t think of any good ideas to write about. I’m disappointed in myself for this, and I’m sure anyone who actually reads my blog is also disappointed at the lack of content. This year, I’m saying enough is enough, and turning over a new leaf. Not just with the blog, but in all areas of my life. When the clock struck midnight on New Years Eve, and we welcomed in 2014, I closed the last chapter of my life and began a new one. My relationship with my amazing boyfriend became ‘official’ as Big Ben was chiming (meaning we put it on Facebook so everyone knew about it!) and I made a promise, to myself, and to him, that I am going to leave the past to lie and begin this new stage of my life with positivity and determination to succeed.
I’ve heard and read so much in the few weeks leading up to, and after New Years, about the importance, or stupidity of making resolutions. There’s the camp that staunchly makes them every year, and writes them in a diary, or posts them to social media in an attempt to give themselves peer accountability. On the other side, a lot of people dismiss them as silly and ineffective, and say that they hardly ever work. Well that’s why I am making year goals instead. I feel that having goals, which you can actively work towards, setting out smaller steps to achieve them if necessary, is a far better method for giving yourself some improvements to make at the turn of the year.
Think of it this way; you set a resolution, say to exercise every other day. You but the gym clothes, sign up to the fancy expensive gym and then start off in week 1 of January with a strong resolve. But by the second or third week, or maybe a bit further down the line, you miss a session for some reason. Now you’ve technically already failed at your resolution, which will demotivate you to continue upholding it. However if instead you had set yourself a goal to say run a marathon in the summer, or go up a karate belt during the year, it is much more attainable. This is because instead of giving yourself a rigid rule which you have to follow, you have something to work towards. Sure, you can try to go to the gym every other day to train for the marathon, but that’s not the be all and end all of the goal, so if you miss a day you’re still on the path to achieving.
This approach can be applied to a lot of resolutions to turn them into goals. I have in the past resolved to write every single day. Again, this means that if I miss a day then I begin to feel extremely demotivated to keep up with my rule, as I have already ‘broken’ it. Instead for 2014 I have made a goal to finish the draft of my novel by the end of the year. I feel this is much more attainable, as I can work writing into my schedule to fit around my other commitments (mainly uni at the moment!) and slowly work towards finishing it.
Another goal is to record the year more. In the past, I often realise too late that I took barely any pictures of special moments or outings with friends, and this year I want to have more tangible memories of the good things. As part of this goal, I’ve started doing something called 365 Grateful, which is where you write, draw, photograph, or otherwise capture, something you are grateful for, every day, for 365 days. I found out about the idea from http://365grateful.com/ (go check it out!) I’m choosing to take pictures, and upload them to Instagram using #365grateful to track them. Even if I miss a day, I’m still on track to recording a lot of good memories, and that is the main aim. This also fits my goal to actively be happier this year.
My other goals for the year:
Go to a convention (like Cardiff Comic Con, Birmingham Memorabilia, or London Film and Comic Con)
Start vlogging (with no strict schedules at least to begin with)
Read at least 20 books this year
Read some of my poetry out at a public event/space (like The Poetry Cafe)
Learn to cook at least five dishes from scratch
Start jogging, and be able to run for at least fourty five minutes by the end of the year
Run for Sabbatical officer in my students union elections this year, and put together a campaign I am happy with.
My last goal is to reach 100 followers on this blog by the end of the year. This will undoubtedly involved blogging more, and more regularly too!
I may add new goals if I think of any, that’s the beauty of it, I don’t have to start them on New Years day, they can start any time and be given any length of time to complete. The main aim is to build a set of guiding actions, to help me structure my time, improve myself, and work towards things.
What do you think, do you still make new years resolutions, or are you more of a goal person? What are your resolutions or goals for this year? Comment below with any input, replies or suggestions!