Personal posts, Productivity & Motivation, Well Being & Mental Health

Consistency and Building Habits

Consistency. It’s something I’ve struggled with my whole life. Growing up with a somewhat… Chaotic home life, I didn’t have a proper routine or structure. As I got older my mum got ill, and iller, until eventually I was fifteen and more or less living on my own. With nobody to tell me when to go to bed, brush my teeth, or do my homework, I scraped through my teenage years by a mixture of autopilot and reckless decisions.

Fast forward thirteen years, and a lot has changed. After moving at least once a year from the age of 16 onwards, for the past 3 years I have had some stability in my life. My amazing fiancé Michael and I moved in together nearly 2 1/2 years ago, and while we have had to move once due to issues with our old flat, we’re sticking in our current home for the foreseeable future. Along with the home base has come a sense of stability which I don’t think I’ve ever experienced before. At least not since I was a little kid. Putting down roots has allowed me to actually grow instead of just running away from my problems all the time. So now seems like as good a time as any to relaunch my little blog, this time with a vow to do things differently. Last time I tried blogging (and the time before, and the time before that) I was in a state of flux. I didn’t know what the future held, I was avoiding dealing with a lot of emotional baggage, and basically viewing my online activities as an escape. The problem with that was that the real world continued to press in on me, and would constantly pull me from my ‘work’ to focus on other things. I needed to confront and begin to deal with things before I could move forward and give something back through this blog. So that’s what I did.

Putting down roots has allowed me to actually grow instead of just running away from my problems all the time.

I’m not saying that I have all my shit together now, because I definitely don’t (does anyone really ever have all their shit together!?) but I feel in a much better place to approach blogging, my passion projects, and bringing consistency to them. This has come from a few places. Number one, and the thing which I am most grateful, fortunate, and thankful for in my life, is my fiance Michael. He is truly my partner; we work together to overcome challenges in life, using our respective strengths and abilities to complement each other and create the life we want. Obviously not everyone has a partner, but think about who your support network is. Do you have a best friend, a family member, or even a pet who helps you keep going? Over the past 3 years, I have opened up to Michael about things I’ve never really told anyone, and we’ve worked together to build healthy, sustainable, and realistic habits and routines. Thanks to his support I am thrilled to say that I now have a pretty solid morning and evening routine, which includes lots of ways to help me tackle this thing called life as best I can.

I’ll talk more about my routines in another post, but they are definitely the foundation of my growth and self development. I’ve been greatly influenced by some experts in the field of productivity, habits, and motivation such as Amy Landino, Sam Laura Brown, A Branch of Holly and Lavendaire. Watching. listening, and reading the wisdom and advice of these wonderful women has really helped me to grow, and I’m particularly grateful to Amy for Good Morning, Good Life the ethos that really set me on the right path to a successful morning routine. When I was struggling and feeling unmotivated, overwhelmed, and lost, her videos were a guiding light, and a way forward.

Consistency isn’t the promise to do something every day, or even creating an elaborate system to hold yourself accountable. It’s actually doing it… choosing over and over again to try.

So here we are. About a year on from my last attempt to blog consistently. This isn’t the first time I’ve tried and failed. It’s not even the second or third. But this time, I feel like I’m armed with the tools and knowledge to help me stick with it. I have done my morning routine, at the time of writing, 62 times this year so far. Some days I haven’t completed every step, and there have been days when I just skipped it entirely, but the point is that I’ve kept going. As recently as this week I had a couple of days where I just didn’t get up on time, and therefore had to skip a few parts of my routine in order to get started with the day ahead. But I’ve kept trying, and this morning I woke up with my alarm, got up and completed all the steps of my routine. Consistency isn’t the promise to do something every day, or even creating an elaborate system to hold yourself accountable. It’s actually doing it. It’s showing up, day after day, and choosing over and over again to try, no matter how hard it seems. So this time, instead of promising to blog every week, or to post on social X times a day, I am making a vow to become more consistent. To keep on showing up, even when it feels hard, to come back when I stumble, and to share my journey with you.

Let’s see where this journey takes us.

What helps you to be consistent? Do you have a tip, trick, or way of thinking that helps you show up for the things you say you will? Share below, and let’s all learn and grow together.

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